Parental rewards

As I was dropping off Cinco to school today, he commented about the upcoming Kite Festival on Saturday.  He wanted to go.  I asked him if he filled out his paper and turned it in, because I haven’t seen the thing since it came home months ago.  They have to read every night for 15-20 minutes for three months to earn a kite.  He told me he had turned it in.  I asked him if he was honest and had really done it.  To which he replied, “Yes, Mom!  Don’t you trust me?  I couldn’t live with myself if I lied.  If I won an ipod or prize and didn’t earn it and lied about it, I would feel guilty.  When I lie I feel guilt.”

Shocked is a good word for what I was feeling.  Shocked because these are the values I want to be teaching them, hoping to be teaching them, but wondering if any thing ever sinks in or comes through.

Today was a good mom day.  My boy has integrity, and that is something not many people have.  How grateful I was feeling.  And I thought, “guilt is a good thing.  It should keep us doing what is right if we don’t push it aside.”

He’s a good kid and somehow, it makes me worry a lot less about him.