Scars

I was pretty excited tonight when my husband told me that Joe Empey would be speaking to the youth tonight at the church.  Joe was one of the missionary’s in the Brussels Terrorist bombing that happened last year.  I haven’t heard his story from him yet, so was excited to go.  He only had maybe 10 min, but there was something that happened that made a huge impact on me.

Joe was telling about what happened just after the bomb went off:  being unconscious, waking up, realizing what was going and somehow being aware of exactly what it was, finding his companion, looking for others, then the pain setting in.  As he approached his companion and asked if he was okay, he asked where the sister was and if she was ok.  His companion said, “she’s burned like you.”  Joe said he then looked down at his hands and realized he was burned.  “I still have the burns and scars here on my hand,” he said, holding it up.

As “the oil lady,” my first thought was, “I need to get him some oils to help that scaring.”  And then I heard it.  “He’s going to want this scar.  I still have mine.”  My heart began to swell.  Joe will treasure this scar.  Not because he’s a boy who thinks scars are cool and a sign of manhood like my boys do.  But this one is different.  This one tells a story.  This one has deep meaning.  This one is about a miracle of a life being saved– physically and spiritually.  This one tells about how many others were “saved,” too.

Joe went on to say that in the hospital after the accident, he questioned why missionaries who were spreading love and teaching of Christ would have this happen to them.  And his answer came through a scripture he read while in the hospital.  John 16:32-33

32 Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.

 33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

 For a young man thousands of miles from home.  No family there.  In the middle of a terrorist attack, it’s no wonder that he saw the tribulation of the world, but was given powerful comfort from the Savior. So many people have been touched by this story.  Probably more missionary work from this one event than he ever anticipated.

But my mind came back to the scars.  As women we are often trying to hide the scars, the wrinkles, the battlewounds from life.  I thought of all the healing I’ve been trying to do to be whole again.  I thought of how many times I’ve asked to touch the robe or to jump in a pool of Bethesda.  I KNOW Christ and my Heavenly Father can heal EVERYTHING and make it all perfect.  So why am I not healed?

And yet Christ, who could raise from the dead, still has scars.  He could get rid of them.  He IS whole and perfect.  But He still has scars. And to those whom He has appeared, they’ve seen them with their eyes, touched them with their hands, and bathed them with their tears.  I picture this over and over in my head all the time.  That glorious day when I meet Him.  I’ll see the scars!

And I’ll know the story they tell.  The price they paid.  The pain.  The struggle.  The battle.  Wanting the cup removed. The miracle.  People saved.  God’s love felt.

Joe, those hands gave me a glimpse of God’s love tonight.  Those beautiful scarred hands– yours and His– that tell a wonderful, powerful story.  It made me long for that day.  And, He also let me know that the struggles we are going through that give us scars remind us of a great battle won, a victory gained, experience given, wisdom learned, and pure love felt.  Those scars change us.  And even though we’d like to look perfect or be whole, that little bit serves as a reminder of God’s perfect love for us and how it changed us.

“…In ME ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.”  

And His hands remind me that indeed He has overcome the world.  Those scars let me know He has.

Thank you, Joe. for allowing me to take a picture of your hands to always remind me that scars are a beautiful reminder that we are not alone!

 

I Can Do All Things Through Christ

Letters to my son:

I read some great stuff in Phillippians this morning.  In Phill 4:6-13, it has some powerful messages.

First in vs 6  I had noted to “ask correctly.”  Then I realized that asking correctly, in part, meant to always show gratitude in our prayers and supplication.

I love this verse (7), “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Jesus Christ.”  First, the peace of God passeth all understanding—isn’t it true that when we have truly found that deep peace in Christ, it is beyond our comprehension.  And when we feel that peace, we understand life on a whole new level and do not want to return back to our old state.

“Shall keep your hearts and minds through Jesus Christ–”  If you remember the stickman, then you remember that the subconscious mind is the heart.  Our subconscious is what moves us to action.  Our “mind” is our conscious mind that accepts and rejects what we hear.  If we are giving thanks in our prayers and feeling that powerful peace that takes us beyond our own understanding, then we will have Christ in our hearts (subconscious) and mind (conscious) so that we will be thinking of Him and acting like Him because it is in our subconscious (heart) to do so.  And what we think about and have in our heart, we DO– take action on.  LOVE this!!

In verse 9 I have circled the word DO.  This is a great verse for us to understand.  It says, “These things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do, and the God of peace shall be with you.”  Isn’t it true that when we DO what we have learned, then we have PEACE and the spirit.  It requires action like being baptized and  living the principles or commandments, We need to DO those things we are taught.

Verse 11 tells us to learn to be content.  I like that.  We can be content no matter our circumstances.  Contentment is really peace, I think.

Then verse 12 and 13 caught me today.  “I know both how to be abased and abound.”  Abased means humble.  Abound seemed to me like abundant.  We need to be humble and abundant at the same time.  It’s like the law of polarity (opposition) a little, but in a positive way.  If we want to be abundant and prosperous, we must first be humble by giving thanks in all things.

And the last verse is just powerful no matter what….”I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”   This is just TRUE!!  There truly is nothing we can’t do through Christ.  It is HIS work.  We are HIS children.   There is nothing we cannot do in this life if we do it with our eye single to Him and with His help.

A Gift of Gratitude for You

This post started out in my mind several weeks ago.  My son, Jadon, has an amazing voice and has been singing all over the place.    The more I heard him sing the song, “Thankful,” the more I could not get my mind off it.  “There’s so much to be thankful for.”  It’s true.  I began pondering and thinking. Continue reading A Gift of Gratitude for You

Misty Mornings

Yesterday driving home from the store, I looked down the road into the little beautiful valley I live in.  It was an overcast day–a wintery, gray/white sky kind of day.  I LOVE these days.  That break from the constant sunshine days, but more importantly, that warm nostalgic feeling kind of day.   Continue reading Misty Mornings

What is the REAL secret learned at the Bookpublishing Workshop?

I was privileged to attend Michael Drew’s Book Publishing workshop this last weekend.  The path getting there was a whole story in itself, but because of a good husband who told me I needed to do this, I ended up in SLC on a snowy weekend to hear the best in the field.

I learned a lot about building a platform, blogging, personas, trends, writing styles.  It was a great wealth of information!

What surprised me was the education I gained from the people there.  I was in awe at the stories that were trying to come out at this class, and amazed at the people there. Continue reading What is the REAL secret learned at the Bookpublishing Workshop?

Solutions to problems pt 3– HOW

planeSometimes we get caught up in the worry about HOW we are going to accomplish our goals and dreams instead of turning it over to God and letting Him guide us in the HOW.

In April 2008, my husband was planning to attend a seminar in California. Money was very tight and I wasn’t sure HOW we could do it. But I knew it was important in reaching our goals and dreams, so I just figured things would all work out. Continue reading Solutions to problems pt 3– HOW

Solutions to your Problems

radio2Imagine yourself standing in a room with a radio.  Every kind of music surrounds you in the room, you simply have to turn the dial of your radio to find the station or type of music you are looking for.  They all exist in the room, but there is one in particular that you want at this time.  You tune in your dial until the station/music you are looking for comes in crystal clear. Continue reading Solutions to your Problems

To My Kids

I am reading Psalms right now.  This morning I read, “Children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.  As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are the children of the youth.  Happy is the man that hath a full quiver of them.”

I couldn’t help but think of my beautiful, good children.  I am so blessed.  My quiver is full and so is my heart with gratitude for them!  Thanks, kids!  I sure love you all!

My cute family at Doodle Bug's Wedding

 

Never forget that these little ones are the sons and daughters of God and that yours is a custodial relationship to them, that He was a parent before you were parents and that He has not relinquished His parental rights or interest in these His little ones. … Rear your children in love, in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Take care of your little ones. Welcome them into your homes, and nurture and love them with all of your hearts. They may do, in the years that come, some things you would not want them to do, but be patient, be patient. You have not failed as long as you have tried” (“Words of the Living Prophet,” Liahona, May 1998, 26–27; “Excerpts from Recent Addresses of President Gordon B. Hinckley,” Ensign, July 1997, 73).

Creating a Good Marriage and Good Relationships

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There’s been a discussion on the Returned Missionary Moms list that I am on.  It was about marriage and how to improve a frustrating situation.  Here is the advice that I sent in.  One lady asked to share it, so I thought– “Hey, if  it’s good enough for her to share with her kids, maybe I should be sharing, too!”

A few years ago, I was cleaning my house and someone had left the TV on. I’m not sure what show was on, but I heard a lady complaining about her husband. I stopped to listen and heard her say something to the effect that she just wished her husband would come home and not go to the bar, that he would love her and her child and spend time with them. As she rattled off a few more simple things she wished for, I felt like I was hit with a ton of bricks. Continue reading Creating a Good Marriage and Good Relationships

Dictating the outcome of your life through journaling

ist2_5271763-old-book-and-penI have to admit that I get in great resistance to journaling.   I love having my thoughts saved, but dread taking the time to do it.   A few years ago, I started a “Webster Weekly” where I wrote down what was going on in the family.  I liked it.   I like it even more now when I go back and read all the funny things my kids did.   So I suppose that I am not in too much resistance to it, but really struggle to sit down and write.   Probably because I want to write a lot and don’t feel I have much time.

When blogs came out, it made it an easier transition for me to take my Webster Weekly to my blog AND I could add pictures.  Still I struggle/d with consistency. Continue reading Dictating the outcome of your life through journaling